Monday, June 18, 2012

when situations can swallow you whole....

When You feel like a situation could swallow you whole, take deep breaths & just Be! If you can change/improve the situation then take the needed steps from a place within you of calm rather than panic. If you cannot change the situation then accept that it is so!! Talk to someone close to you & explain how ur feeling or write down your thoughts to let them out! Your mind can make things much scarier than they really are so listen to your heart!

Oh man, I just feel so torn. There is nothing I can do... but I just feel like I am on this slippery slope with Dan. Yet again another disappointing relationship. I dont know if hes smart enough or savvy enough to make money and provide for himself or me. Plain and simple. But I care about him a lot as a person, a lover and a friend. I feel bad for him and want to 'be there' for him because I want someone to 'be there' for me but I also feel like this might be a hopeless cause. I know my dad, annette and ME keep saying just 'focus on you'... which feels dumb. I am trying to chip away at what I need to do to get home, but all I want is love and affection to complete me. I know I need to just 'keep searching' and just make myself happy right now. Even if that is hanging out with other guys - which is NOT a bad thing or cheating. I just need to keep myself social right now! Especially because I get so depressed when I am alone too much. I cant help it that my friends are guys. I just want dan thats the sucky part. Not too often to you come across someone that you enjoy AND want to have sex with? Not often. So I cant just 'wait it out' anymore and just enjoy his company because he is not here! So --- now what? 'Focus on me'? Talk to other boys that I am so not interested in. Keep being disappointed with his lack of hard work and the fact that he is not making money, and continues to be a mooch. Bad signs for our future.

Besides, if he 'makes it'... he still will be very naive and uneducated. And this could come back up in 5 or 10 years? When we had kids or something. Oh man ... having kids with this guy?? Yikes. Like Charlotte said, he'll be saying the lampost across the street is giving him a weird vibe so thats why hes in a funk.

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